Sexual Orientation and Politics

William: do you have any opinions about the presidential race,... I favor Obama... but you are in Canada, right? So, if you ignore the us politics, i understand

Canadian: I do not have a TV for many years already, but the bits and pieces that I hear about, I am anti Republicans

William: aha, so, you share my views somewhat...

Canadian: I want Obama to win, we do have an election coming up too, and I hope we will get
rid of Harper, the conservative b'stard, a brother of bush of sorts

William: oh, and Obama is pro gay rights much more so than Republicans [my Canadian friend is gay]

Canadian: well the dems are mostly

William: my granddaughter is only 14, but she is in love openly with another girl for one year. so, when i saw a political action group in the streets, asking donations, i signed up and gave them $10 (because of granddaughter). So, Ii get their interesting emails, about political issues

My grandaughters parants give her a real hard time about her orientation too

and , they call her beloved "fugly" and "gorilla" , which i feel is unkind

Canadian: it is hard for parents to understand

William: right, and this girl has been seriously in love for one whole year, with the same person... so it is not just rebellion, or a phase

Canadian: of course not

William: Ii believe sexual orientation is not a choice, but some some mystery that we are born with, and discover often as early as age 5 or 6

Her mother was pretty wild as a teen, but she was straight... she forgets how it is

Canadian: well that is easy to forget

William: and when the girl is around us, she never talks about anything or flaunts anything, so it is not some attention getting device

William: i mean, i sense that for her it is a very private thing....... well, except that she posts photos of her girlfriend

Canadian: society and parents can be idiots at times

William: but, it is like this one movie i saw, nice movie, called "Saving Face" about two Chinese gay women in flushing NY... one is out, and the other is in the closet...
The one who is out finally complains, "i want you to fall in love with me in front of the worlds eyes"
it was rather touching scene
Ii think whether we are gay or straight, we want to fall in love, and part of that is a public statement of acceptance..

Canadian: I do not have that issue anymore

William: i mean, being publicly "together"

Canadian: I do not care if society accepts me or not, I am who I am and that is what matters

William: right!

Canadian: it took me a while to get here where I am, and from now onwards I am not hiding, those days are done with

William: good for you! thats the spirit!

Canadian: I can tell an absolute stranger I am gay and it would not matter if he accepts me or not

William: this is the best policy, i think

Canadian: like today at work this Moroccan guy is looking at this magazine with Megan Fox on it in a suggestive tongue on lips picture

and he says to me she is the most beautiful woman in the world
I told him, well not for me, it is not my department I am gay
I do not like women sexually

[01:25] William: and, they just make assumptions that YOU feel the same way that THEY do

Canadian: he was shocked at my open sincerity

William: a more sensitive and perceptive person might realize your orientation BEFORE you say anything, and be more considerate in his remarks
But, then, certain cultures seem so much more homophobic than others

Canadian: no I do not "look" gay

William: i work with some people from morocco/ in morocco
i know you dont look or act gay

Canadian: I look very masculine and almost straight

William: but... some people are more sensitive and perceptive about others

Canadian: not the straight people
They do not have that gaydar thing

William: besides, it is better to wait until you know someone better, before you blurt out such things

Yes, i have heard of that expression gaydar

Canadian: as opposed to radar

William: right... i just meant that, often, you can sense the way another relates to you

Canadian: but straight guys in general do not have that sensitivity
That is why they are straight
Iit does not register with them unless you are very open and come out and say it to their face
and I have no problem with that when the situation warrants it

William: right,... rather thick-headed i suppose, presumptuous..

William: we must define ourselves, and, in so doing, defend ourselves

Canadian: I have nothing to defend
I am not guilty of anything

William: No... not in that sense

Canadian: I am gay and that is that

William: i mean, we must always resist those forces which seek to overwhelm our individuality
just as a nation defends its boundaries
not guilt, but, rather, autonomy

Canadian: when The Beatles returned their MBE's to the Queen
Buckingham Palace, when asked for comment, said
the Queen is above embarassement

William: ah, very good!


Canadian: I have been hungry all day
I can not afford to have something during my break
shortage of money is very crucial as we speak

William: ok... take care... wish i could feed you something from here

Canadian: so I have to eat something now

William: bye... see you later

Canadian: I am very hungry
Bye for now